yup i’m about to go work out and shower and turn on ‘put it on your mouth’ by akinyele to amp myself up.
omg y’all he was so kind and nice and agreeable and happily went out to shovel my snow i watched him from the window for a while and then put on my boots and coat and ran out to help him do it and we worked together and got it done really fast and threw snow balls and salt at each other and this nigga got my hair wet and i’m not even mad i’m so sigh i really am falling for this stupid lightskin nigga ugh.
LMAO i kinda wanted to for a second i was so jolted and surprised. i just sat frozen for a second and uttered a shakey ass ‘okay’ and then went and contemplated life and posted on tumblr about it.
the thing is though i dont think i’ve ever met a single dude who genuinely made an effort not to be misogynistic but still actually takes offense when a woman says “urg, men”
and pretty much every white person who is able to recognise and unpack their privilege gets what i mean when i say “urg, white people”
and straight people who are legit supporters do not get huffy when i say “urg, straight people”
and like im cis, but when trans people say “urg, cis people” im not horribly wounded
because when you’re aware of the system you also understand that it’s not about you
and i understand that nobody hates me for being cis, they hate the power that i have over them because im cis (or light-skinned, or able-bodied, etc)
like remember that quote that was like “no, i didn’t say all white people, but since that’s what you took away from it, yes, all white people”? pretty much, the more angry and confrontational you are about blanket comments, the more those comments are directed at you
which makes them a really convenient and effective thing
LOL FUNNY STORY I KINDA THOUGHT ME AND BG WERE SLICK AND MY DAD DIDN’T KNOW HE’D BEEN SPENDING THE NIGHT????????? KINDA THOUGHT THAT I WAS GETTING AWAY WITH SOME SHIT UNTIL MY DAD ASKED ME THAT AND I WAS LIKE UMMM OK AND JUST WENT IN MY ROOM AND LOOKED AT THE WALL FOR TEN MINUTES.